Acting your Age...

My sister came to me the other day wanting to discuss something her friend had said to her. Although I was already aware of this 'friends' mannerisms, I didn't expect her to stoop so low as to dismiss my sisters happiness.

At the age of 25 I see my sister being in the best place she's ever been. Although, this happiness was labelled as "her head is in the clouds", she is living "in a dream world" all since her last relationship ended. Now... as a relationship ends we all know both partners are going to undergo a change in personality. It just so happens my sister picked herself up (with my assistance!) and started dating someone. Being in a new, fresh relationship you're excited, spending a lot of time with one another, and planning things together. Why does this translate as being in the clouds and a dream world? It wasn't jealousy, and it wasn't an expected comment. To make it worse, her friend explained her point of view in saying because my sister is on a minimum salary, is paying for bills, already has future events to pay for, that she cannot plan or do anything else; because she can't afford it and needs to be "more sensible" to suit her age.

Since when did it become unacceptable to dream? Especially based on your age and financial situation. We have all heard the phrase "act your own age" but since when is there a guide or a set of rules telling us how we should act. Also, as time moves on I believe it is more important to learn who you are and do what makes you happy rather than following a stereotype. Times have changed therefore so should we.

So, I asked my sister "Are you happy?" It was clear at that moment in time she felt the happiest she had been for a while. She is in a good place, she is with someone who makes her feel comfortable and wanted, and ultimately she is happy. This happiness is all that matters.

As everyone is saying "It's 2020!"

Life is harder, society has grown in complexity and yet the small minded are trapped in this idea of sorting your life out. Everyone has or makes goals, but everyone is different, wants different. We may go through the same birthdays but the most suited saying for this post is Age is just a number! And with each number there is no rule, make your own rules and make sure you are happy whilst doing so.